Monday, June 30, 2008

Today evening as I was sitting in the cafeteria with my colleagues, the topic of our conversation shifted to the male ego. One of the guy said, "No matter how practical and modern man is, he would never accept the fact that his wife is earning more than him." I did not like or rather understand the point he was trying to make. Yes, I agree in the Stone Ages, it was the man's job to hunt for food and be the provider for his family, but that was ages ago. We have come so far from that, yet the need to be the provider of the family is still ingrained in the male species. It is a measure of their success in life. But I wonder why, why is it that a woman cannot earn as much or probably even more than her husband and lend an equal or more hand and taking care of the family? Why is it that even though when we all say that the women are at the same level as men, there is a fine line dividing the two, encompassing the roles and duties of each gender within it.

If the food which is on the table is bought with the woman's money and not the man's would it taste any different? My colleagues said that the men feel important if they are the ones who are earning the bread and butter of the family and that it makes them feel needed. But then I wonder, if it was the woman who had bought the food and the man who had cooked it, would either of them be worth any less? They said that women soon loose respect for the men who use their wives money for their needs. But then in a marriage, where do 'you' and 'me' come? I thought it was all about 'us'.

Maybe at this point of time, it is a bit difficult for me to understand since I am just a spectator and not the player in the field. Once I go out to play, things would be more clear (hopefully)!

5 comments:

cooldude007in said...

Arre yaar i dun mind if my wifey takes care of money part n i cook 4d whole day...
rathr i dun mind doin both earning as well as cooking n i wud like her 2 taste n gimme honest opinion bout my food..

Send tht guy 2 meet me ill make him understand :)

cooldude007in said...

Whn m cooking 4 her m not taking care of ny responsibility m jus expresing my love ;)
Though according 2 doc ur luv shud b independent of how othr person feels but i dun mind expressing it n make her feel gud with the warmth of my love..
N once u start loving n making each othr cmfrtabl wit ur presence salaries, money, designations ke liye time nahi milega yaar...

Adisha said...

Firstly,thanks so much for going through my blogs. I cannot believe you actually went thru most of them in a day... :) I really appreciated your comments and would be responding to you shortly.

Secondly, as far as male ego is concerned, darling! It's not limited to earnings. It extends wayyyy beyond that and thru every aspect of life. Women in general are known to bend more easily though these days, with all the equlities coming into play it's not that easy for men's ego to rule the fort. Also, once in a while a man comes along who actually Understands, rather than listens to his ego. These are the men that make the world a easier place for women. :D Its not about earnings, but about self worth. Question becomes, " How come she's worth more than me ? ". Though, I have a couple friend, whose wife is a house wife and now he's itching for her to go to work and him to relax at home ;) :)) Though, there's not much relaxing to be done at home, I can tell you that. LOL !

Cheers ... tc

dreamy said...

madame i went through all of your entries....usually i wouldnt have done that..when i come across a new blog i just go through the topics that i find interesting..in ur case i found all of them interesting...i am not kidding when i say this..but with almost each entry i felt as if someone is penning down my own thoughts in words!! i am dead serious...i am glad u found my blog...but how did you?

Adisha said...

Really ?! Thanks. Am glad you think that way. I felt the same way when I found your blog, which was totally by chance. I was searching of an image of a thinking girl or something like that for a birthday card i was putting together and bam ! there u were ;) ur profile image of the girl so to speak... i liked the way u're blog is put together and as i read your writing, i saw a bit of me there.... i'd been trying to find similar blogs like mine. nyways, i'm glad i did...

hope to read more of Your stuff in the near future... till then keep wondering n living life to the fullest ...

cheers