Thursday, September 11, 2008

Recently after interacting closely with so many people around me I have noticed that even though they are all completely different from each other, there is one thing that most of them have in common, and that is loneliness. Many of them are surrounded by people who love them and care for them, many are not, yet they are all lonely. Every one has that longing for their own special someone and most of them have given up hopes of finding one.

In the olden times, people used to live in huge joint families and would get married to the girl/guy of their parents choice when the time came. They never knew what it was like to be lonely. To spend nights just gazing at the stars searching for a face in them. To go to sleep hugging a pillow because you need someone to hold on to. Coupled with the high stressed life that the youth of today lives in, it makes the things even worse.

I have noticed another thing, people who have never been in a relationship, do not really feel the pain and the longing as much. They might wish for the special someone, no doubt, but there wont be a desperation involved in that wish. Desperate, that is what most of the people these days have become. Its like they are drowning in stormy waters and they need to hold on to someone to rescue them out. They come out of the storm for some time and soon slip back again. And as the number of times they slip increases so does their pain and their desperation and their need. Because they cannot imagine what it is like to swim alone. They have become so used to that life support that they are sure to drown if it is not there.

There are a few lucky ones, I do not deny. Those who find their soulmates and are complete. But that is a very few percentage of people. I sometimes wonder if it is a healthy thing. I have claimed so many times that the person I love to spend my time the most is me myself. Which is why I suppose I never felt that desperate need for someone. Of course, the romantic books and movies do make me cry all the time and make me wonder if I will ever have that kind of love. But it is not as if my life would stop if I dont. Am I wierd? I really dont know..Maybe I am. Its just that whenever I see the pain my friends go through day in and day out and all the efforts they take to put on a brave face and smile it just hurts me. I do understand that it is something really special to share your life with that one person. Someone who knows you inside out and is there for you when you need them. But still that does not mean that you spend the rest of your life mooning over the ones who have left and gone.

Yes, it hurts when they go and we miss them, but we have to understand here that people in our life come and go and we miss some the rest we dont even remember after some time. Like someone once said, people come into our life for a reason, for a season or for a lifetime. If they come for a season then you have to believe that it was for a reason and a very good one. Once they go away, the seasons change and a new one soon comes, till that time you wait. And hey who said you are alone! You have yourself to keep you company right?


Adisha said...

Hi there. Liked what I read. It's interesting how even though you notice the sadness around you, you have the hope alive in your heart and know that everything has a reason. That's some what my philosophy.

Further thoughts on the same, if you'd care to humor me - It's true loneliness exists all around but believe me, till a person realizes that they in themselves are complete, no amount of love from outside can fulfill the gaps. If you're comfortable in who you are, and what you stand for, even the silence of an empty room cannot leave you stumped. Sure, time and again we all feel empty, and that feeling exists even if there is "Love" in your life. For no one can stand by you All the time, no matter how perfect a soulmate they are. In times like these you need to know that you're ok. Coz you are you !!

dreamy said...

yup i totally agree with u there...this is what is missing in almost everyone today....they have forgotten to live with and love themselves..they keep searching for someone else to complete is sad to see them like this...wish i could do something